3 Ways To Wipe Out Fear
What do you do when your fear is out of control? When your fears grow too big you’ll find that they choke out your dreams and just make your life look plain ugly. Like those weeds, it’s time to wipe out fear from your life!
Our lives are a little bit like a garden. Each of us begins with all of the potential to produce an abundant crop—fertile soil below, the warm sun above, and occasional rain to wet our roots. Our parents and teachers and pastors carefully mark out straight little lines and place those ever-precious seeds of possibility in us. They nurture us and protect us through that initial period of growth.
But as time goes on we are given more responsibility in tending to our own gardens. We begin to see growth in various places. It’s exciting and encouraging to see these little sprouts pop through.
Right about then we begin to notice something else, too. An untold number of weeds also start poking up. We didn’t put them there—they just started appearing on their own.
Some of them look kind of ugly and a few are even thorny and uncomfortable to be around. Much to our dismay, they start to climb higher than our plants. We try to yank them out and stomp on them and spray them. But, like a Whac-A-Mole, they just keep coming back.
Like those weeds, if left unchecked, our fears can grow completely out of control. They can get in the way of all of the good things that should be growing in our life.
If it’s gone all-too wild, here are three suggestions to wipe out fear:
1- Work Through The Things That Cause You Anger
Sometimes it just helps to look at things from a different angle.
Fear and anger are often linked. People express anger when they are afraid. It’s a basic coping mechanism.
Not so long ago in my life, I was an especially angry person. I would throw full-on adult tantrums. It seemed that anything would set me off. Not fun for myself or anyone around me.
I’ve had the ability since then to look back and answer, “Why?”.
My anger was coming from this general sense of a lack of control in my life. I couldn’t see why I was here or where I was going. Since I was getting older in life this ignorance led to fear which almost always resulted in my lashing out in anger. I was threatened and anger was the only way I knew how to deal with it.
Two things helped me through it:
- Knowledge
I gained control by getting an understanding my purpose. My anger atrophied once I no longer had my ignorance to blame. And, as I could see a plan come together in my life, it also took away much of my fear. - Acceptance
The same calling that led to my understanding of purpose also awakened me to a better understanding of who I was. My ego which was so easily threatened in the past subsided and I developed a much more empowering acceptance of myself and any circumstances in my life. With this acceptance, I no longer felt so threatened all the time.
As I took away the things that were angering me I was able to bring my out-of-control fear back under control as well. Remember, the two are related. When you aren’t making progress against your fear try focusing on the things that make you angry. It might just be the diversion you need to see things in a new way or with renewed energy.
2- Get Rid of Your Secrets
I’m no saint. I’ve, “been there, done that,” you could say. I’ve got plenty of regrets but I have accepted them and moved on to a much more hopeful future.
Back when I was carrying a closet full of skeletons, however, I was often in a state of paranoia. I was afraid I was going to get caught. That paranoia seemed to have a life of its own and quickly grew out of control. In a Law of Attraction sort of way, it drew more and more fear into my life. Before long, it overpowered me.
The longer we allow these fears of getting caught to thrive the more they impact our resistance to fear in general. Their presence attracts more of the same. In other words, fear thrives on fear.
If you are looking for ways to wipe out fear, well, stop sinning.
Sure, that is easier said than done but when you can let things go that compromise your integrity or relationships the peace you will know will be so worth it.
If you are cheating or stealing or suffering from an addiction, find help so that you can get through it. Make the confession, find accountability to prevent it in the future, and move on.
The freedom will empower you. It will be like stomping your fear into the ground.
3- Address Specific Fears Head On.
If you can identify a specific fear, tackle it. Ask a series of questions to help expose its possible instability:
- Why am I afraid?
- What would really happen if my fear came true?
- How likely is it that my fear would actually be realized?
An honest assessment will often reveal many flaws in your thinking about these things. Fear can run so amok in our lives simple from the fact that we don’t question them. They are assumptions.
An assumption is when you assume ownership or responsibility for a thing often without questioning it. If a loved one dies, for instance, you might assume their debts. There isn’t much you can do about it, you just take them on.
It’s the same with many of our fears.
But we really should be questioning anything that holds us back from living our most powerful life. It needs to be fair game to deal with them.
Grab a notebook and list out the fears you are fighting. Work through the three questions above and empower yourself. I believe you will be surprised at how some of your fears suddenly won’t feel as strong.
Take Away
Too many weeds can destroy a good garden. They thwart its purpose which is to produce good, beautiful, useful things.
But a good gardener can keep them under control.
You are the gardener of your life. You have been charged with the duty of keeping the weeds from choking out the abundance of the fruit of your life. If the weeds have gotten out of control you can still remove them and get your garden back on track.
You now have three tools to work the ground and fight back on these weeds of fear.
Work through your anger. As you do you will likely be fighting your fear as well.
Eliminate the unsavory things that grow your fear. Remove them and you will begin to attract peace instead of fear.
And address your specific fears head-on. Question them and reveal their true nature. You will find they aren’t as strong as you thought they were.
As you do these things you will wipe out fear and your produce will finally be fruitful.
What is your major fear that you are working on wiping out?
Aaron Force is a blogger from Seattle, Washington. He writes to help others find their purpose, get unstuck, and impact the world. These goals are important to him because these were all struggles that he faced himself and knew the frustrations of first-hand. In the spring of 2015, he experienced a spiritual calling that clarified these questions for him. It is his purpose now to help others find that same clarity so that they too may begin to “live their most powerful life.”
Aaron Force is a blogger from Seattle, Washington. He writes to educate others about the nature of an expanded consciousness to evolve humanity. Aaron unexpectedly experienced his own profound awakening and ego transcendence in 2015 and soon understood that the qualities of his own experience (a greater expansion and evolution in his life) could be applied to mankind collectively.